10 Danger Signs She May Be Cheating On You
(Disclaimer: Most women do NOT cheat in a loving, secure and satisfied relationship. If she’s really into you, it’s really obvious. This is just a guideline for men to protect themselves, are unsure of and have a gut feeling someone is amiss, and then gets hit by the bad breakup moment that usually comes without warning. These guys usually get hurt badly, and go into horrible depressions for months, and some may never recover till they grow old and completely give up on relationships.)
Don’t just take my word for it… listen to what this girl says:
#1. Her Mobile Phone Is More Secure Than A Swiss Bank Vault
Ever see her smiling herself silly and apparently texting? Or she starts to have late night texts from “friends”? She’s not focusing on you when you talk to her but always so attached to her phone? New passcode lock-screen where it never used to exist?
#2. Always Hanging Out With Her Besties
What do single girls do? They get out there looking for that special someone, or just to have fun! So naturally, if she’s hanging out with these single friends of hers, they end up in places where they can meet lots of new people and guys… Even if she’s steadfast loyal and faithful, it surely does not prevent some other dude from trying his luck on her that night. It’s just real-world logic. You would try too if you were that guy, wouldn’t you?
#3. Busy, Busy, Busy
She used to be pleasantly surprised when you drop by for lunch at work, or show up for impromptu meets. But these days, she resents it and tells you off? You can no longer do spontaneous meet-ups without a formal arrangement. She’s now always busy and has no time to meet you for anything? A woman in love will move aside a mountain just to spend time with her man. But if she is constantly having “official” reasons why she can’t meet with you or hangout, then she is someone else’s company.
#4. Finds Excuses To Pick Fights & Start Arguments
The smallest thing can result in the worst arguments and fights. Everything is a reason to start a fight. It can be a probable sign that she’s hoping to end the relationship using a fight. Judge wisely… as it could be genuine work-related stress that is the cause… but otherwise, it’s a clue if it starts happening all the time.
#5. That “Friend” Who Doesn’t Have A Name
Trying to deflect questions about where she is, is going, and who she is around. Tells u they are just friends/ old friends or keeps it a mystery and justifying with stories that he needs help with “work/girlfriend issues”, etc. With social media and ease-of-connectivity, finding a lost long “ex” is as simple as a google or FB search.
#6. Priorities Have Changed
She starts having a lot more activities “on her own”, some special class that she never quite was interested in, or a new group of social friends that she starts hanging out with all of a sudden. Your fixed nites/plans/dates are replaced by her new interests all-too-often.
#7. Even James Bond Has A More Transparent Schedule
She’s always sketchy about her schedule, yet she’s ready to head out when a bestie calls. Either that or she has been “going away on business” one too many times without any details. And when she does leave, her whereabouts are vague, and you are somehow always the last to be informed. Revealing her itinerary to you at the last possible moment, and overlooking you in the process can mean many things, one of which isn’t that she’s forgetting, but rather not including you in them.
#8. She’s Always Looking Her Best When She Heads Out
Physical changes in her are apparent and obvious of late… e.g. new hairstyle, type of dressing, and not necessarily caring what your opinion is… likely to impress someone new? Remember how both of you were on “best behavior” when you were in the “courtship” and “honeymoon” period? Yep. Just this time, it’s not with you.
#9. No Longer Having Sex With You (Or As Much)
This is a HUGE. Any woman’s who has experienced good sex, craves it every single day, and sex is on her mind all the damn time. When she starts to find excuses to avoid it e.g. needs to work the next day, or school assignments (due 3 months from now), etc, and says it too all the time… something is extremely wrong. Obvious signs include being less physically intimate with you… less kissing, not much cuddling, hand-holding, etc. The fundamental essence of all healthy human relationships is sex. You can believe otherwise if you choose.
#10. Having & Buying Sexier Lingerie
When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will get sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. Women crave pleasure in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave much more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse, shorter skirts, or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her brand of perfume (and that could go either way, stronger to cover the scent of his scent, or lighter because he’s not fond of heavy fragrances). She may also change the way she wears make-up to suit his taste.
There are a lot more “tell-tale” signs that are obvious and more subtle. This is just a rough guideline from our experiences in life, and the relationships we have been in.
There is no perfect relationship. It takes 2 hands to clap, and committed work. Any side that starts to slack and loosen up, will eventually cause an imbalance. Don’t blame. Take charge and responsibility. If she’s worth it, then you ought to keep up your end of the stick… (pun intended).
In any case, if there is a need to end things, do it like a man. Set your boundaries right from the start. Raise your own standards. Lead the relationship by example. But never accuse without solid evidence or proof of infidelity, and definitely be discreet and aware of the words you use when approaching this topic with her.
Share this with your guy friends who you think should be aware of these life-saving signs!
Not convinced? Think it’s never going to happen to you? Feel free to read this book:
This book isn’t fiction. It’s real life. And I’ve had quite a few personal female friends who have shared their deepest secrets of their “adventures” with me. When they wonder why they do it, and I show them this book, they usually connect immediately with it and say that it’s written about their own lives. Coincidence?
I really hope this post helps the guys out there who are who are unsure of where they stand in their own relationships. Get educated and be aware. This isn’t to bash women, but to protect ourselves against signs that will hurt us instead.